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like to add a coat of paint,
and be who they aint.
That’s how our little game is played,
living like a masquerade,
acting a bizarre charade, while playing the saint.
Jekyll & Hyde: The Musical
it’s society’s mask,
it’s society’s way,
and the truth is,
that it’s all a facade…
Jekyll & Hyde: The Musical
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A relationship isn’t strong without
- fights/arguments
- problems
- time away from each other
- tears
- sacrifices
- irritation
- heartache
because people think that a relationship is perfect when they always get along and never fight. But really you need those things to make a relationship strong, you need those things too see how much both of you can with stand and if these feelings are just butterflies or if they really mean something more than that.
And not just boyfriend/girlfriend type stuff, this goes for family too.
I don’t intend to be rude or negative, but I guess I’m wondering why people still believe this?
You don’t need those things to make a relationship strong. In fact you want to avoid them at all costs through compromise and resolution if you want a strong relationship. This is not saying jump ship at the first sign of trouble, but if you love yourself and your partner enough, you obviously have to establish a comfort level and strategy for yourself in case an iceberg shows up.
While I want to believe the best of the author’s intent, I take issue with the fact that no limits are set. How do I know if I’m crying too much? How do I know I’m fighting and hurting too much?
Sacrificing going to college because my loved one is disabled is not the same as sacrificing a mortgage payment because your boyfriend gambled himself into owing a drug dealer a thousand dollars while drinking with his “friends”. It’s also not the same as sacrificing my body, emotions and savings so I can look the way my lover wants me to look and we can stop fighting, which many would say is an acceptable sacrifice for love. Not.
Civilized disputes, disagreements, and reasonable debates (all acceptable) are different from fights, ranting and raving, loud arguments, and violence (all unacceptable).
Moreover, often we have to put up with troublesome family because we live together by nature, and usually depend on one another (especially youth), but that doesn’t mean we have to do the same as adults, nor does it mean we should eventually put up with a love interest who can’t keep themself together.
I know we’re all imperfect, but honestly, people need to learn how to be better people, and thus better lovers. Selfless, respectful, humble, kind, polite, chivalrous, charitable. If we stop equating these easily achievable attributes with “perfection” or “prudishness” and get over our pride and egos, then we may still have a chance at life without round-the-clock bloody war even in our own households.
Most people aim for the typical 50/50 relationship where these issues are common, but I believe in at least an attempt at 100/100, as in:
You: “I love you so much. I’m just gonna drive all the way out there instead of making you meet me half way.”
Them: “Thanks, but I’m already outside your door.”
When you’re working towards 100/100, doesn’t matter when someone accidentally slips because they’re always covered by the other. (“Wow, you already started dinner? …You didn’t have to do that; but that’s perfect since I’m running late from work.”) Try arguing with someone who loves you enough to understand your situation, preferences, and desires enough to always be a step ahead of you waiting with a door open. It’s very difficult.
The best Lovers usually take the most pleasure in making each other happy versus seeking happiness from the other (which easily creates anger when one doesn’t get what was sought).
To avoid romantic obstacles, we need to learn to effectively communicate…just because it’s easier to communicate doesn’t mean we do it better (if anything, all signs point to ‘worse’). Stop trying to make 2,000 online relationships work and focus on your offline relationships. We need to sober up so we can make wiser decisions. Learn to choose a partner for reasons you won’t get bored with or characteristics you won’t find elsewhere (or else you’ll find what you want elsewhere).
Ultimately, if you or someone else won’t rise to the level of resolving what problems arise without great pains, irrationality or immaturity on either side then you probably shouldn’t be together.
We don’t need to be weak and settle or accept conflict and strife, because none of that is what love is. Arguments, fighting, heartache, and tears may be occasional side effects of even enduring relationships, but that doesn’t make them useful elements of strong relationships nor something we should welcome with such open arms as the original post implies. Problems should be exceptions, not the rule.
There may be a thin line between love and hate, but there isn’t a thing standing between a person and the millions of peaceful, romantic possibilities out there.
You don’t need a perfect relationship, but you need and (tell yourself this:) deserve one that works for you too. Everyone has the right to a peaceful and respectful relationship with minimal conflict, stress, and sadness in their pursuit of love and happiness. If you don’t like it, leave, before it’s too late. Pain and suffering are unhealthy no matter the source.
We must learn to prevent and avoid problems (proactive) in relationships instead of accepting and “dealing with” them (reactive) like society tells us to.
Take it from a real victim.
(Source: averyantonio)
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I’m reading one of the most influential books ever, titled The Human Machine by Arnold Bernett; first published in 1908.
I was pretty excited and digging deep into the text when the phrase “idle as a nigger,” came out with the grace of two wayward and wacky arms smacking about aimlessly like a flustered republican in Congress.
Ironically, it is, in large part, because of what the author outlined well-before and -after the phrase that I was able to overlook the instance. The book has spoken to me with simple ideas of catastrophic importance to our evolution. Maybe a man like Bennett, holding such valuable keys to life, never knew (or wished) that a black man would be digesting and increasing in wealth significantly off just one of his many books. In his defense, I’m sure in 1908 even his ill condition of the mind wasn’t easy to recognize and detach from.
Therefore, I shall continue to read and enjoy The Human Machine because I tell my brain to do so (and I am the master of my brain, as the book states… If that sounds elementary refer to the image, I’m barely scratching the surface) and especially in honor of the so-called nigger(s) he was referring to.
The reason ‘good’ people are so hard to find is mostly due to the fact that most of us don’t know what’s actually good for us anymore.
It’s much like saying good food is hard to find while you bypass the produce aisles for the frozen dinners and ramen noodles. Sure, they’re quick, easy and taste decent, but they ain’t good for ya in the long-run.
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I. I am a novice to the craft, but to the best of my recently acquired knowledge and wisdom on the subject, Alchemy (which is often disrespectfully regarded and shamed as ‘evil’ sorcery or mere fictional magic) is the art of transforming or manipulating the world around you metaphysically by transforming the resources that are already there and under your control (that which you are made of metaphysically/mind, soul; natural tools and ingredients around us).
II. Like any gifted, non-violent, and teacher-friendly (“geeky,” as one might say; I prefer the term ‘studious’) pupil, I took this photo for a visual element of allegory to help us all understand this tried-and-true process a bit better:
Inside my home, under the typical duress of modern and civilized stress and debt, I was beginning to host a bleak, cold, and dark outlook on the external world… Usually keeping the blinds closed. But today, I opened them… Aha! (re: altering the internal to change the external) And this (see the photo) is what I saw:
Gorgeous trees dressed perfectly for the season, a vast and blue sky in which man may actually learn to fly, a world sunny and vibrant, always old and new, one that changes quite brilliantly without our mortal and temporary intervention and interpretations.
III. Coincidentally (probably not), at the very time of writing, my mate, who consistently introduces an uncomfortable amount of the aforementioned strife in this infinitesimal corner of the universe (and is completely oblivious to this photo and post), just requested that the blinds of one of the windows, the very same window you see pictured, be closed yet again; just as they are far too often.
A suggestion that we should obstruct the colorful sights outside, because (loosely quoted:) ‘my eyes find pain in that sunlight so bright, I prefer the mundane, artificial glow of man-made, fluorescent light.’ (*wasn’t expressed so poetically, but the original statement definitely carried the same key points.)
IV. I expressed considerable outrage that an intelligent being would choose a typical, less-efficient and artificial lamp — contraptions also seen often in such moody and depressing buildings like prisons, ‘nursing’ homes, funeral homes and morgues — over and above the natural grandeur that could only be provided by the living Universe immediately beyond: the invention of space, time, and creation that was not, contrary to popular beliefs and mythology, created and/or first-imagined and conceived by mankind, nor our countless icons and icon manufacturers, several powerful ones which were unfortunately designed in an ideal and haphazardly-defined image of mortal men and women for a precise and narrow purpose.
V. Modern man: a severely self-aware species, comprised of legions that must learn to just be thankful that we are able to enjoy life here together, and help others do the same, especially among its wealthiest and most ‘civilized’ societies. He must cease the reckless attempts to annex or subdue any and everything in his limited sight for selfish and excessive, aggressive, or one-dimensional gains that only benefit a few.
Humans should opt instead for contemporary harmony with as many of the various organic splendors before them as possible, all which only a time-bending and unflinching organism far greater than our complete comprehension and understanding could bring forth to existence.
VI. Thus, friends, I doubt that this particular revelation was not a direct consequence of the ancient art of transformation that the self-appointed leadership of several municipalities globally have insulted, defamed, and degraded in recent history, even though the practice inspired the creation of almost all of their strongholds and institutions which continue to assault and then fabricate Alchemy for their own violent advancement and profit. Sounds lofty, I know, but it’s true.
VII. Based on what you’ve just patiently digested (and I appreciate your undivided attention), in order to transform the world around me once again for natural benefit, I think we all should know which element inside this household requires a metaphysical transformation next, ideally at the hand of my inner power and intellectual abilities expressed outwardly, and metaphysically.
Although, during the Alchemical process, simply transferring a particular (weak-eyed) ingredient outside. of its typical space is often necessary to perfect the final product. (Peace OUT!) ;)
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