L I T by K R A V E N

Somewhere is your heart.

Memories of you
play like a symphony in my head,
as I dream away on a stream
flowing down my bed.

The river wasn’t turned enough,
to ferry me back to your heart,
so I float along, all alone.
The warmth of your glow gone cold to the touch and dark

Singing a hollow song,
beating my tired and broken drum.
Wondering why you’re not safe where we belong.

I don’t know where the water will carry me,
but I imagine somewhere, there’s another shore awaiting me.
Where I won’t be left to drift so aimlessly,
drowning in a flood I poured from misery.

For now I’ll keep hold of our shipwreck,
The sweet romance under her twinkling lights, I’ll never forget.
If I sail away to heaven under the moon and stars,
in another world, a pause in time,
adrift here in the seabed,
Surely I’ll make it somewhere,
‘cause, out there,
somewhere is your heart.

Tomorrow

I know you’re watching from out there
I can see your distant face
I know our hearts are one
Yet lie on different planes

I know you are right
and you know you’re wrong
And maybe (one hopes) time will bring us
right back where we belong

But a war that brutally ends
allows peace to begin
and as we each span the globe
No matter in which direction we go
I’ll return to you, you know
And you’ll circle back round to me
Sure, it won’t be on this day, and this time
but maybe sometime tomorrow.

The Aquarian Gift

This object my heart,
must duly express,
Confession:
longing deeply for a brilliant constellation,
the divine mistress.
Humbly behind someone’s else
when he should be written in the stars ahead
Believing he’s my second prize,
when he’s the gift I’ve always wanted instead.

A relationship isn’t strong without

tooniceguy:

• fights/arguments
• problems
• time away from each other
• tears
• sacrifices
• irritation
• heartache

because people think that a relationship is perfect when they always get along and never fight. But really you need those things to make a relationship strong, you need those things too see how much both of you can with stand and if these feelings are just butterflies or if they really mean something more than that.

And not just boyfriend/girlfriend type stuff, this goes for family too.

I don’t intend to be rude or negative, but I guess I’m wondering why people still believe this?

You don’t need those things to make a relationship strong. In fact you want to avoid them at all costs through compromise and resolution if you want a strong relationship. This is not saying jump ship at the first sign of trouble, but if you love yourself and your partner enough, you obviously have to establish a comfort level and strategy for yourself in case an iceberg shows up.

While I want to believe the best of the author’s intent, I take issue with the fact that no limits are set. How do I know if I’m crying too much? How do I know I’m fighting and hurting too much?

Sacrificing going to college because my loved one is disabled is not the same as sacrificing a mortgage payment because your boyfriend gambled himself into owing a drug dealer a thousand dollars while drinking with his “friends”. It’s also not the same as sacrificing my body, emotions and savings so I can look the way my lover wants me to look and we can stop fighting, which many would say is an acceptable sacrifice for love. Not.

Civilized disputes, disagreements, and reasonable debates (all acceptable) are different from fights, ranting and raving, loud arguments, and violence (all unacceptable).

Moreover, often we have to put up with troublesome family because we live together by nature, and usually depend on one another (especially youth), but that doesn’t mean we have to do the same as adults, nor does it mean we should eventually put up with a love interest who can’t keep themself together.

I know we’re all imperfect, but honestly, people need to learn how to be better people, and thus better lovers. Selfless, respectful, humble, kind, polite, chivalrous, charitable. If we stop equating these easily achievable attributes with “perfection” or “prudishness” and get over our pride and egos, then we may still have a chance at life without round-the-clock bloody war even in our own households.

Most people aim for the typical 50/50 relationship where these issues are common, but I believe in at least an attempt at 100/100, as in:

You: “I love you so much. I’m just gonna drive all the way out there instead of making you meet me half way.”

Them: “Thanks, but I’m already outside your door.”

When you’re working towards 100/100, doesn’t matter when someone accidentally slips because they’re always covered by the other. (“Wow, you already started dinner? …You didn’t have to do that; but that’s perfect since I’m running late from work.”) Try arguing with someone who loves you enough to understand your situation, preferences, and desires enough to always be a step ahead of you waiting with a door open. It’s very difficult.
The best Lovers usually take the most pleasure in making each other happy versus seeking happiness from the other (which easily creates anger when one doesn’t get what was sought).

To avoid romantic obstacles, we need to learn to effectively communicate…just because it’s easier to communicate doesn’t mean we do it better (if anything, all signs point to ‘worse’). Stop trying to make 2,000 online relationships work and focus on your offline relationships. We need to sober up so we can make wiser decisions. Learn to choose a partner for reasons you won’t get bored with or characteristics you won’t find elsewhere (or else you’ll find what you want elsewhere).

Ultimately, if you or someone else won’t rise to the level of resolving what problems arise without great pains, irrationality or immaturity on either side then you probably shouldn’t be together.

We don’t need to be weak and settle or accept conflict and strife, because none of that is what love is. Arguments, fighting, heartache, and tears may be occasional side effects of even enduring relationships, but that doesn’t make them useful elements of strong relationships nor something we should welcome with such open arms as the original post implies. Problems should be exceptions, not the rule.

There may be a thin line between love and hate, but there isn’t a thing standing between a person and the millions of peaceful, romantic possibilities out there.

You don’t need a perfect relationship, but you need and (tell yourself this:) deserve one that works for you too. Everyone has the right to a peaceful and respectful relationship with minimal conflict, stress, and sadness in their pursuit of love and happiness. If you don’t like it, leave, before it’s too late. Pain and suffering are unhealthy no matter the source.

We must learn to prevent and avoid problems (proactive) in relationships instead of accepting and “dealing with” them (reactive) like society tells us to.

Take it from a real victim.

(Source: averyantonio)

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The Biographies of Love: Poem V

Love’s expression,
her enchanted and eternal dance, is as key to one’s survival as it is for us all
You are no more removed from the need to express your love and feel it than she is
or he is,
or even they are.

When you stare at your reflection,
are you in love with the image?
Which of you is on the living side of that mirrored vision?
Can you slay the monster made of discounted parts,
a perfect marionette fashioned ‘round a swollen heart
sewn together by everyone else,
suffering on behalf of some hand you were dealt?
Can you sever the strings and stand for something greater than life itself?
For, as long as Love dances
You will never dance with her if you can’t stand to love yourself.